Author Archives: Alexander Warnow

New Sliding Scale Openings

On March 25, 2020, Posted by , In Uncategorized, With No Comments

This is a scary, difficult time for all of us. Now – perhaps, more than ever – people need mental health counseling. I’m excited to share that all of our clinicians here at XY Counseling are opening up many sliding scale spots to address these needs. For those of you…

Creativity, Sex, Vitality And The Shadow Pt. 2

On November 2, 2015, Posted by , In Art,Creativity,Sex,Shadow, With No Comments

Note: This is Part 2 – for the first part click here.  Carl Jung said, “The shadow does not only consist of morally reprehensible tendencies, but also displays a number of good qualities, such as normal instincts, appropriate reactions, realistic insights, creative impulses.” So there are 2 sides to our…

Creativity, Sex, Vitality And The Shadow Pt. I

On October 30, 2015, Posted by , In Creativity,Sex,Shadow, By , With No Comments

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” – Mary Oliver With Halloween and all manner of darkness and scary-stuff-that-goes-bump-in-the-night approaching it seems appropriate to consider the psychological concept of one’s shadow. We all have the “light”…

11 Tips For Successful Therapy

On May 15, 2015, Posted by , In Advice,Listicle, With No Comments

Here’s some tips to make your experience in therapy as fruitful as possible. 1. Talk to several therapists before choosing one: There are all sorts of personalities and many different modalities. Finding someone you connect well with is the most important predictor of success. 2. Make sure the financial commitment…

DJing and Psychotherapy: More Similar Than You Think?

On January 26, 2015, Posted by , In Art,Bay Area, With No Comments

Recently, as I looked out from behind my DJ mixer and saw a crowd of 300 sweaty, happy dancers and a funny thought came to me – “this is like some of my experiences as a psychotherapist!” Some people know that in addition to being a psychotherapist I’m a DJ…

One Simple Question

On January 13, 2015, Posted by , In Advice, With No Comments

There is one very helpful question you can ask yourself as you go through difficult times. One question that just might be the lifeboat you can cling to as you navigate stormy seas. It is simple and effective. Without further delay, the question is . . . “How can I…

11 Times You Should Consider Seeing A Therapist

On January 5, 2015, Posted by , In Advice,Listicle, With 1 Comment

I recently wrote an article that might have been surprising, considering I’m a therapist. It was entitled 11 Things to Do Before Seeing A Therapist. After re-reading that I thought I should write this article, its natural counterpart. Admittedly, I’m a little biased, but I whole-heartedly believe that almost everyone could benefit…

Eleven Things You Should Do Before Seeing A Therapist

On December 12, 2014, Posted by , In Advice,Mindfulness, With 4 Comments

Disclaimer: this advice is not meant to replace mental health treatment, medication, or therapy. For depression, serious mental illness, and more, you should definitely see a professional. AND try the things in this article. Therapists might hate me for writing this. But here are eleven things you should do before…

Mindfulness and the Modern Man

On November 24, 2014, Posted by , In Bay Area,Masculinity,Mindfulness, With No Comments

Do you ever wish you could be experiencing something – anything – other than what you’re experiencing? Sure you have. We all have. We’d like to feel joyful when we feel sad. Or we’d like to feel close to someone when what we feel is distant, or angry. We often…